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  1. 1 month ago

    Anonymous asked

    I am a 14 year old gay girl. Sadly, my grandpa has been diagnosed with a very dangerous and aggressive cancer, and it is unlikely he will live for more than a month. I love my grandparents so much and they mean the world to me, but their homophobia is causing me difficulties. I love him, but would he love me if he knew who I fully am? De he think I, his granddaughter, am a destroyer of the family unit like he says gays are? Would his opinion change? These are very complicated feelings--help!

    I can relate - one of my grandparents was slightly homophobic, until I came out, and their opinion was changed. However - that’s not saying that yours will. 

    I guess you have to ask yourself how you’d like to spend time with your Grandpa in his last month. 

  2. 1 month ago

    Anonymous asked

    hello I am 32 and never been into a serious relationshipI am being attracted to men and women but only have lesbian fantasies.I find myself having romantic fantasies with both but i imaging myself having a husband My question is what am I? thx

    Sadly, we can’t tell you who you are. The best thing you can do is be yourself and go with what feels natural. Have a scout for some LGBT groups in your area and go along for a meetup and see how you feel from there. 

  3. 3 months ago

    Anonymous asked

    My girlfriend is 16 & gets abused by her parents for being lesbian. Can they get in trouble?

    Yes, they can and should. 

    I’m not aware of your location, but there should be a child services that you can call and report this to. Make sure to speak to your girlfriend first though.

  4. 8 months ago

    So much crazyness!!

    I am a 25 year old bi-sexual female. I don’t understand why there’s still so much dumbness toward the subject! I am married for two years (dating for seven) to a wonderful man and we have to daughters together ages 5 years and 18 months. My husband knows about my bi-sexuality but isn’t scared of it and he definatly does not use it to his advantage eg. asking for threesomes. The way I look at our relationship is this, if you get married and are completley straight you still might get divorced some day and marry another man, with me I could eventually not want to be with my husband anymore but I would probably date a female, having already done my time with men lol. I like guys more physically bot there’s a certain ache I get down there when kissing a woman that i never get kissing a man. But we are what we are everyone of us and I’m a practicing catholic and it says in the bible judge not lest ye be judged and people need to shut up about what God thinks, unless he actually floated down on his cloud and told you! Oh and I have to say if either of my daughters came out as gay I would be their biggest ally. I would not let there girlfriend sleep over either though, I would accept the relationship the same as i would if it was a boy and my daughter boyfriend would not be sleeping over either! Always be strong and be you!!!!

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  5. 9 months ago

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  6. 9 months ago

    Anonymous asked

    I'm a lesbian and I've known my sexuality all my life until I met my boyfriend. I'm not bisexual seeing as I'm only aroused by him (not other men) while my attraction to women is stronger. I feel so lonely, and homophobics look at me as their poster child for "becoming" straight .I didn't choose to love him and I'm not dating him because I hate being a lesbian. Am I alone in all of this? I feel like I'm losing my identity and like I can't call myself a lesbian anymore. I feel like the only one.

    People can’t choose who they fall in love with. Don’t let yourself me manipulated to being a poster child for anyone. Your life is your life, you don’t need labels.

  7. 9 months ago

    mercy-hallelujah asked

    Last year I told my mom I was bi. I'm a lesbian, but I thought saying I was bi would soften the blow (stupid, I know). When I try to talk to her, she says that if I'm bi, I can choose to be with men. Then we argue, and she interrogates me, and I get in trouble just for not being straight. I'm terrified of one day having to choose between love and family. I need to have this conversation, but I don't know how to without getting angry or in trouble. Can you help?

    Come out to her, sit her down, and tell her it’s not a choice that you can make.

  8. 9 months ago

    janesedomnomnom asked

    My name is Lisa and Im 18. My sexuality is bisexual but im physically attracted to guys whereas with girls im physically, emotionally and so much more so how can this situation be addressed ?I connect on so many levels with girls more than guys. I don't even find guys attractive anymore. Can you help me understand what im feeling or at least explain it to me better ?

    Go with what feels natural for you. I’m a lesbian and can still find guys attractive, but could never be with a guy.

  9. 9 months ago

    Anonymous asked

    Hi, I'm 14 years old and I'm pretty sure I'm a lesbian. I told 2 of my close friends that I'm gay and they were really happy for me. Unfortunately, I have a whole group of friends who aren't so accepting, they said to me that (without knowing I'm gay) that they'd be creeped out if someone in the friendship group was a lesbian, but they're perfectly accepting of gay men. I want to come out to them, but I can't stand to be ridiculed and the centre of gossip. I really do love those girls. Thoughts?

    Come out to them. They probably didn’t realise what they were saying. Also, talk to them about their feelings - they may have just been playing the big man. If they don’t accept you for who you are, then they aren’t good friends.

  10. 9 months ago

    My parents hacked my email and forcefully outed me.

    They are firm, conservative Christians and… Well… My girlfriend’s beautiful face and love letters in my email did not sit well with them. They screamed at me from 9pm to 3am in the morning, I just cried and stared at the clock through tears. Some of the things they said: “perverse” “whore” “unnatural” “disgrace to the family” “rather you were pregnant or on drugs” “hope you rot in hell, stupid faggot”… Needless to say all of my privileges were taken away. I had to stay there an entire day before they agreed to let me call my father to come pick me up, during that time I was told how selfish, narrcisitic, and what a horrible person I was for wanting to leave. I couldn’t breathe, I thought about ending it… My eyes were completely swollen from crying and I couldn’t keep any food down for days even after I left. I was terrified and still am. People here don’t understand that having the two people you love that swore to always love you and treate you with kindness suddenly turning on you and ripping at your throat because of who you love is just as bad as physical abuse. I’m currently staying with my dad for the summer (who I came out to last month and is completely supportive) who lives two hours away, and I would move in with him if it weren’t for my school… My school will not transfer my credits correctly because they do not want to lose the state money of my aditdance, if I changed schools I would have to start over as a sophomore. I’m a senior, 17, and I live in Texas. My girlfriend and I have no money to speak of and her parents refuse to let me stay in their house because while they support their daughter’s sexuality, they will not have her girlfriend sleeping in the same house.

    If things continue at this rate… I’ll be forced to return to my “mother’s” home where I will be forced to sleep on a mat, have no friends, be verbally and emotionally abused daily, and come home every day after school only to lay on my mat till bed then get up the next morning and go to school. No movies. No internet. No freedom. No outdoors. No girlfriend. Just thinking about that makes the depression loom over my head. By sharing this, I hope to let other lgbt teens know that what they’re going through… They aren’t alone. Someone like me is suffering just like them, and I am here to love my family even if their family doesn’t love them back and it seems like the world is caving in.

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